Beauty Room sneak peek and some wife tips to get him to see things YOUR way! Happy wife, happy life right?
It has been way too long since my last post! Should I reintroduce myself? Seriously though, it has been a hot minute since I have actually been able to sit down and write! After a long talk with my husband, (which I will get into a little later) he agreed with me that I was lacking my own personal space and I should have a room dedicated to my passion/craft. That is the very concise version of how this beauty room came to fruition.
I’m sure you know this wasn’t an overnight decision where my husband said, “Yes, dear” and “whatever you say dear.” So here is the real life scenario that went down and some wife tips that have been helping me to get him to see things my way for almost a decade now! ?
Wife Tip #1: You have to subtly plant the seed. This is the longest phase of ultimately getting what you want but it has been my tried and true method. In the case of the beauty room, my little seedling was my vanity which he agreed to when my beauty products started taking over the double bathroom vanity. My set up was a vanity from IKEA and a lighted mirror I found on EBay. I was ecstatic with this space but I knew down the line that my space would need to grow and for a multitude of reasons. (I had this set up though for over two years!)
Wife Tip #2: Just come out and say what you want! This might apply more to “stay at home moms” (for my particular example) but really in any relationship either person should be able to honestly state their needs/desires and feel heard and respected. My life for the last seven years has been primarily about my children, always placing myself on the back burner. As a stay at home mom, I felt like I was losing my identity and although me staying home to raise our children was a joint decision, I couldn’t help but feel like my “job” wasn’t being measured with the same type of importance ruler as my husband’s because Mama doesn’t bring home the bacon. It wasn’t anything my husband did to make me feel that way, it was me and my own insecurities. I was told at a very young age by my father to never depend on a man and to always keep the independence I had even as a little girl. Needless to say, I somehow lost that independence
and confidence I once had and was in the EXACT situation I was always told to avoid. Ah, the things we do for love!
Fear not! I am clawing my way back to that inspired, confident, and independent girl I know is still somewhere inside me. Ok, ok I know….get to the point and wrap up wife tip #2. One night
after a glass of wine or two I simply just said to my husband that I thought it was bullshit that everyone had their own space in the house besides me! My husband had his office and an area downstairs with all his music production equipment, the kids had their playroom, and honestly the entire house because their crap is EVERYWHERE. Even our very infrequent overnight house guests had a full bedroom, living area, and full bath in our finished basement. I said “what do I have?!” I didn’t even have a closet to fit all of my clothes and shoes. All of my belongings were in closets all over the house. (I know, I know, first world problems) I then presented the idea of me taking over the spare bedroom in the basement as my space.
Wife Tip #3: Make him realize how whatever you want helps him in some way! After my wine induced presentation of taking over a full room downstairs, he gave me the “are you crazy” eyes while trying to gauge whether it was me or the wine talking. He very quickly realized I wasn’t joking. I cannot say he was on board at first, but the next day he approached me and said he totally understood where I was coming from. He realized that in order for me to be able to spend time on my blog and grow my freelance makeup business, I had to have space to accomplish things. After he came to this realization though, he told me that I wouldn’t be able to get started on this room for several weeks (at least) because he wouldn’t have the time to take all of the furniture out of the room. Once I told him how nice it would be to have all of my clothes down in that room, thus freeing up the entire master bedroom closet for his things, he managed to find the time. All of the furniture was out before the end of the weekend. It’s all about motivation people! ? He was just as happy to have more space for his belongings as I was to move (mostly) all of mine into one room.
Wife Tip #4: Let him know his opinion matters. This really doesn’t just apply to men but really anyone that matters to you. Yes I was happy he agreed that having my own “babe cave” was a great idea and I knew that I had 100% control over its design. However, I still wanted him to feel like his input was important to me. I also knew I would be needing his help when it came to the hanging of pictures, mirrors, assembly of furniture – you get the idea. I knew he would be more willing to do those things, and on my timetable, if he felt truly needed during the process. ? But seriously, I did want his opinion on things! Does he have the best eye for what I was trying to make happen in my room? Maybe not; however, I figured the more feedback the better!
On a serious note, my husband has been super supportive and encouraging with really everything I have been trying to accomplish. Whether it was starting a blog, trying to kickstart my freelance makeup business, or taking over an entire room in our house for all things beauty related, my husband has been my biggest supporter and I couldn’t ask for a better partner. Undoubtedly there were times I’m sure he wanted to have nothing more to do with this room, as I had him move pictures around and reconfigure furniture, but he made it happen because he knew how happy this would make me.
Before I share some sneak peek photos of my “babe cave” I do want to note that this post is not being written in any way to boast or to be a show off. I understand how lucky I am that this was even a possibility for me. This room is not just a place for me to get ready but also for me to have a quiet area where I can blog, house all of my belongings that otherwise would have been strewn all over this house (as they have been for the last 8 years!), and ultimately will serve as an area for clients to come to have their makeup done. This room has turned into a little sanctuary for me and I am truly grateful that I have it.
I look forward to when I can finally show you all the room in its entirety and share how I managed to put this room together on a reasonable budget!